Thanks for this post. It is very brave to discuss these things. I grew up with an abusive sister and went through patterns of abusive relationships. I also thought that there was something wrong with me as I was attracting abusive people. I think those of us who were victims of abuse sometimes don’t see the difference between a healthy relationship and an abusive one until it is too late and the pattern continues. Remember that you are not at fault. It is them. I am glad you are starting therapy. Therapy has helped me to identify an abusive person and allowed me to set certain boundaries.