Thanks for the update. I am sorry your attempts to work things out have been met with so much negativity. You can try but you can’t make another person change their mind.
One thing you don’t want is for your young child to see the two of you argue. Little ones absorb a lot and have no way of understanding.
I think it’s a good idea that you get therapy for yourself so you get support and advise on minimizing negative exchanges with your wife.