Alcoholism is a disabling disease and when someone is trying to get sober and learn how to live their life sober the advice is “no relationships”. Instead the focus needs to be on sobriety and learning how to live your life sober which includes taking responsibility instead of practicing the escapism through alcoholism and all the drama that creates.

What you need to do is attend AA meetings and also see a therapist. The focus needs to be getting your life together while staying sober. You cannot do that when you are distracted by the relationship challenges with another person who also has addiction problems.

Alcoholism presents constant problems when it comes to working too. Many with problems struggle to focus and maintain a healthy work ethic while at the same time using alcohol. There tends to be a lot of denial and blaming for work problems when in reality the real problem is the alcoholism.