Thanks for responding. I agree with this as well. I was working on myself. We exchanged numbers in a zoom meeting. Then things moved quickly. I told her that I only wanted to be her sober brother and she insisted that we had something special and then said soon said we were soul mates. I told my therapist that she was all up in my space. Then things progressed quickly and she said I should be more in sync with her. I started to believe the things she was saying and told her I was scared to open my heart to someone because of my past relationships. She got me to open my heart. I told her I would wait for sex and then when I was making out with her she took me to the bedroom.
Things moved too quickly. I'm trying to work on myself at this point now that the relationship has become toxic. I want to save the relationship but it's up to her. She has cut the communication way down so I don't have much of a choice other than to work on myself now. Very sad. I thought there would be more intimacy in the relationship on all levels. Some people are just different.