Divine is right - a 180 degree turnaround in one year is not realistic or even feasible.

My husband is showing old behaviors - yet again. Yesterday he went on the attack against me, when it turns out he was actually upset about it being a holiday without his father around.

He accused me of not being able to take ANY feedback whatsoever, when in fact, he's the one who gets defensive whenever I point out a behavior of his that I don't like. He also told me I am the "most impatient person he's ever known" (hurtful), when in fact, I show more patience than most people would have when it comes to him.

There are other things he said and insinuated (all projections), but I am realizing that the changes he has made do not extend to all of his old bad behaviors.

I am disappointed and discouraged that our therapy is not helping and that his individual therapy is not helping much.

He hasn't yelled or anything, but he did bring up breaking up again, in the heat of a dispute yesterday. This is something he does - threatens a breakup whenever there's a disagreement, which does not lend to a stable relationship. It lends to instability and insecurity within the relationship.

I don't know what to do.