This could have been written by me - I, too, grew up with a narcissistic father and have had several toxic relationships. My husband shows narcissistic traits, for sure, and does things similar to your husband.

We cannot diagnose on here, so that's best left to a therapist to determine. I agree with the above, though. I would address these things ASAP and in therapy with him. This Kind of thing cannot go unaddressed or else it will continue to keep surfacing.