I have been journaling the incidents, every time there's tension or a rough spot between us. I am cataloguing the incidents. My memory is poor, so this helps me to recall specific details. I am going to continue to document what's happening when it happens, to help myself. If another pattern is developing again, I will see it unfold in my journal. This will help me to decide what to do going forward, and whether I need to leave him again. It's possible that with a better therapist, these behaviors can be addressed through therapy. I am hoping that's the case. I still need to find a therapist.