I don't have the bandwidth for DMs but I really want to validate how painful it can be to be forgotten, be it big or seemingly small. One of my core wounds is also about being overlooked, easily forgotten, or that I'm remembered with disdain.

I've gotten really upset (though I mask it) when my former psychiatrist forgot my name, or my T spelled my name wrong (even though I've never liked my name).

Once my T asked me a question about the motive of my abusive sibling in an abusive incident I endured. I got upset because it seemed she didn't remember I had already told her ages ago. It turned out that she was checking to see if my beliefs on my sibling's motive had changed.

I've gotten upset whenever she's more than 30 minutes late to an appointment even though its only happened twice in a long time. I immediately jump to the assumption that she has forgotten me because the other patient was more important. She actually was quite annoyed / frustrated when I told her if she forgot me the second time, and asked if I think she'll forget about her schedule of patients for the day.

I know both times happened because of severe inpatient crisises and she'd give me extra time if needed too (I told her that) but I know as an outpatient that there's a limit. Whereas those 2, I felt like they mattered more because they were inpatient / more acute crisis. Plus her being so late also would result in negative work consequences for me because my bosses were already unhappy I was an employee needing time off work once every 2 weeks to once a month for "mental weakness" (stigma) despite HR backing me up.