It sounds that you were actively pursuing her (for friendship or not) while she was not particularly interested and just went along for awhile, then she ran out of steam. I see no reason to keep pursuing people in this manner. When you asked her to accompany you for a wedding and she gave you no answer, it was obvious she wasn’t thrilled with the idea, otherwise she’d say yes. At that point you had to stop asking. Sadly some people are bad with being direct and when pushed and prodded, just follow along.

I don’t know why you have negative views on women and I suggest you seek therapy about it. We all run into bad partners or bad friends of either gender, but when your view on the whole gender is negative (rather than view on this one particular person) then it’s something you might want to explore.

You said she is racist and has a bad view on people of other races just based on race. But you have a negative view of the entire gender, which is not better and in fact is just as bad. You are both stereotyping and let personal biases take over common sense

I’d stop seeking her company. It sounds that she moved on and so should you