Hi guys,

So I have been seeing my new T for about 6 months now, and things are going ok. I knew it would be insanely slow progress with her, but it is at least progress.

I contacted an Art Therapist a few months ago asking if she had any availability, because art is something that has been a big part of my process, but totally self 'guided'. She said that the venue wasn't available yet, but hopefully by May it would be.

I spoke with my T about the idea of seeing her once a month, to complement our talk therapy. She was hesitant at first but quite quickly 'agreed' that maybe we could give it a go. I was pleased she was onboard with the idea.

I contacted the Art T again a couple of weeks ago and asked if there was any news on the venue. I said that I had spoken to my T and told her of my idea/wish to have each one complement the other, and said that I would be more than happy to keeping things open between the three of us. I said I would be happy to talk about it in more detail if she felt she would like to, before agreeing to it, because I know seeing more than one person at a time is a little unconventional.

She replied to say that she wouldn't recommend this, though I may find other therapists who would feel confident to work in this way. She said she would be very happy to talk on the phone if I wished to discuss it further.

I replied saying I knew it wasn't recommended, but that I did want to give it a go, for several reasons. I said I was confused by her email though as to whether she would consider it or not. I stated that if she would be willing to consider it, I would be happy to try and help her understand my reasons and my drive for it, and how I see it working, but that if she really didn't feel comfortable working in this way then I felt there little point in me opening up about it.

She replied saying that 'given various things I think it would be best to leave arranging therapy at present. I am away for a few days so won't answer emails until next week now. Would be happy to talk further about this if you wish'

I didn't reply. I was confused. I wanted to talk to my T about this but we have a break at the moment. Anyway, not 5 days later I receive another email from her saying 'I have been offered the room for up to three months. I don't know if you would like to do some short term art therapy work. Would you like to talk about this on the phone?'

I am so confused. Can anyone else make more sense of this than me? One minute she recommend we not, and then she is offering to do so, but only for three sessions? One a month? Or is she expecting me to come every week for three months? I can't afford to do that on top of my existing therapy.

I haven't replied to this last email either, I just don't know whether it is worth it or not. I felt my emails were very clear, but that her's were totally ambiguous.

I could use some help in the absence of my T if anyone fancies trying to decipher what's going on here!!