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Originally Posted by divine1966
It sounds that you were actively pursuing her (for friendship or not) while she was not particularly interested and just went along for awhile, then she ran out of steam. I see no reason to keep pursuing people in this manner. When you asked her to accompany you for a wedding and she gave you no answer, it was obvious she wasn’t thrilled with the idea, otherwise she’d say yes. At that point you had to stop asking. Sadly some people are bad with being direct and when pushed and prodded, just follow along.
I don’t know why you have negative views on women and I suggest you seek therapy about it. We all run into bad partners or bad friends of either gender, but when your view on the whole gender is negative (rather than view on this one particular person) then it’s something you might want to explore.
You said she is racist and has a bad view on people of other races just based on race. But you have a negative view of the entire gender, which is not better and in fact is just as bad. You are both stereotyping and let personal biases take over common sense
I’d stop seeking her company. It sounds that she moved on and so should you
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Just like someone else has said whenever I asked their opinion I'm trying to push a full-time friend status on a friend who is actually going to be simply part-time. Her indirectness with being asked questions or talking about important topics is aggravating. Now I know what I do not want in either a friend or partner (but heaven forbid at this point that I have the latter now).
Good news is I have a therapist who I have been working with on this matter and he's helping me to dive into my bitterness against groups of people. I may always be bitter though. The only way to win over the opposite gender in these days and times is to be popular, have lots of money, and most importantly, treat them like dirt. And women are just too hostile anymore to view tokens of friendship as simply just that. They think it's all sinful lust and attraction so another thing I've noticed is women only view guys as potential soul mates or get the heck away from me zone. I can go to as many therapy sessions as I want but I have every right to generalize and hold these views.