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Originally Posted by KD1980
She kinda did? My grandfather was the one who was more abusive to her children. She was also abused by my grandfather. She does seem to think abuse is normal.
I just don't know what else he could do to me to make her see that I had to stay away from him. It seemed like I had to give him countless chances.
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She may never change. I don't know how old she is but seniors rely on how they were brought up and experiences to form their thoughts into what is acceptable and what's not.
I had parents who were in their late 40's when they had me. The time was so different back then. People were rougher with each other. They believed spare the rod, spoil the child. No one, talked about any kind of abuse. It was locked behind closed doors and if you ever tried to open that door (I tried with my parents) believe me it got slammed shut right away.
I think the thing to remember is that you don't need to talk to your Dad or Grandmother for that matter. Don't answer the phone when she calls. Try getting close to other family members or if thats not possible. Pick your relatives from friends, meaning I have 2 friends that I can tell anything to. I consider them my family.
I sincerely hope that you can make things good for YOU. This life is your journey and you have every right to set boundaries that make you happy.
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