Hi, I'm sorry you were hurt DazedCofused254. Feelings like that can generally take some time to process, to put them into a perspective that helps the person to be more at peace with the world and the self. Good on you for doing just that.👍

You've obviously received a lot of pertinent feedback here, so I just wanted to say, perhaps be mindful of the fact that once these hurt feelings subside somewhat, the thought of wanting to resume or to reach out to her again might come creeping back.

It's something to be mentally prepared for and may pay to make a decision in advance about what you'll do if it happens. Otherwise you might wind up on the merry-go-round of recrimination and reconciliation for too long unnecessarily. It's like a self inflicted pain that only you can feel. Part of the human condition obviously but doesn't need to happen. So I guess I'm talking about setting a boundary in place. Thank you. All the best.