I have plenty of what the title says against this so-called friend.

She seemed to be the best of friends all through 2021. In June I went to Turner Falls with her and spent the night there with her. Then we talked pretty much everyday. Then comes September '21, when I want her to come with me to a wedding in San Diego. Every time I asked her if she wanted to come she deflected the question, wanting to talk to me about political matters (she was passionate about the pull out from Afghanistan). Then after she finally said she would go to San Diego with me, she upheld this decision until the night before, when she changed her mind but I've already shaped my entire trip to include her in my plans.

Then when I confronted her about the situation, she kept telling me she didn't want to talk about it anymore when I was talking to her about it on DM, the night before I was supposed to meet up with her and another friend. When the next day came, I was visibly upset and she was so sad that I was unhappy with her she said tears. She apologized so I thought it was all ok.

However, after that last hangout I had to do all the work to keep in touch with her. When I kept asking her on DM when I could see her again she just bluntly said she would let me know, but then said that she was mad that I had confronted her about the San Diego trip she bailed on. I explained my side once again and she clearly understood how inconsiderate she was. I have never felt the same about her since she apparently held a grudge against me, and she is responsible for ruining my view of the opposite gender, which has been in decline for several years.

Some of these things happened on a much smaller scale leading up to the big incident, plus there are things I don’t like about her. She is racist, asking me what race people she sees are, and was tempted to say something hurtful to one of her patients because of their race.

Most of my friends except for one say that I should not be friends with her. I’ve already unfollowed her on Insta, but haven’t removed her as a follower yet. But now I’m thinking of blocking her, as I haven’t heard from her in a couple of months and I don’t know if I’ll ever be comfortable being around her again.

What do you guys think?