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Originally Posted by ArtleyWilkins
As a person with personally horrible memory for details, I tend to cut people slack -- including therapists.
I know my own inability to recall details has absolutely nothing to do with my level of caring for an individual, nor does it keep me from being supportive and consistent in my attention to those individuals. I just have a crap memory for details about things at times. I don't know why. I juggle dozens and dozens of students each years, and this is a constant battle for me. But I own up to it with them. I can only be honest about it and continue working with them as I always do.
My last therapist was very much like me that way. He'd forget names or confuse something on occasion that, yes, he probably should have kept straight. But rather than take that as some sign of lack of caring (which it absolutely wasn't), I chose to take the path of least resistance and simply remind him of whatever it was and move forward. For me, it was an easy act of grace for a flaw that I completely understand all too well myself.
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I too am a very forgetful person so am very understanding of others forgetting details. And yes as you say my lack of recall doesn't mean I care less about others. I do however know at times my lack of ability to try harder to retain certain information that friends may tell me a bit lazy. i.e they have sometimes shared important things about work or family members and I forget when really it may have been something I perhaps should have taken more of a mental note to ensure I remembered. If I knew those same people also had wounding around being forgotten and I knew having poor recal of their important events affected them alot I would ensure I did it less. My point it I don't think it can always just be put on the client.