Last night I confronted my husband with his behavior last weekend, and the result? He withdrew from me, barely cuddled with me all night and then barely kissed me goodbye this morning. Withholding is a form of emotional abuse, and that's exactly what he's doing right now. I am not allowed to tell him that what he did bothered me, apparently, or else I will lose his affection and love. I told him he cannot take his moods out on me. So this is what I get?

I am becoming very weary of this routine. As soon as he moved back in it seems, it's all started all over again. I feel SO foolish for having believed he could change. SO FOOLISH. The only thing he is NOT doing which HAS changed is he is not yelling at me in explosive anger. But his outburst towards me last weekend, "you're the most impatient person I've ever known!" may as well have been an explosion in my mind.

And now I am wondering if his mother is abusive, too. She keeps saying very hurtful things to both her sons, ie "you've abandoned me! My sons do nothing for me!", when one of her sons is taking care of her and has welcomed her into his home. My husband excuses her hurtful comments by saying she is still upset about losing her husband and about not having been there on the morning that he passed away in the hospital. She feels very guilty for staying home that day. But my husband excuses her hurtful words. And this is something that he does himself, to ME. He dumps all his upset out on me and says very hurtful, mean things, when really, he's upset about something else entirely different. Either way, t's NOT OK. This is unacceptable.

I am getting very sick of this, very quickly. My patience has worn thin.

I have a call set up with my abuse advocate on Tuesday - this appointment cannot come soon enough.

And once again, I am stuck in my relationship due to finances. If we weren't married and if we were not living together, I would have broken up with him over the fight he caused two weeks ago. This very well could be the beginning of the end - yet again.