I joined a FB DID support group. A member asked how to git rid of an alter. I told them they could put the alter in a timeout or safe jail until they were ready to deal with them. I did this with "monster," who was always trying to hurt us. Later I met with Monster and realized she is a scared and confused 9 year old. I renamed her Lily. The support group said I was encouraging abuse and putting away an alter like that is abusive as the alter will become more traumatized. Lily let me know that was not her experience and we are all good. I don't know why I still feel awful. Maybe because a bunch of people used angry emojis and calles us abusive. We are sensitive. On advice of a friend, I left that group and came back here. Last rime I was here was 2011 I guess. I never ever remember anything like that happening here.