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Originally Posted by divine1966
I don’t think it matters if he is narcissist or not. And they can’t really know on online forum. He does sound like one possibly by what you described, but does it matter? I think the only thing matters is if you feel content in your marriage. If you are, then who who cares about online forums and diagnosed.
But if you aren’t, then it doesn’t matter if he is narcissist or simply a jerk or you are just a bad match. I also think women on that forum likely just want to help the best way they can in online forum.
They might also be hyper vigilant when it comes to abuse/bad relationships. They might see things differently as they’ve been there.
Take what’s useful for you and disregard the rest.
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I personally think they're so mired in the abuse that THEY have experienced at the hand of a narcissist, that they assume all abusers are narcissists. Wrong.
It does matter because an abusive narcissist will not change. Therapy will not help, in this case. An abuser CAN change and therapy CAN help. So it DOES make a difference in my marriage what his diagnosis is. That being said, abusers rarely change that dramatically, statistically speaking. I knew this, but I believed his words and promises of change, instead.