I work with teenagers with mental health issues as well and I agree with you that behaviors could be modified and change and I have ton of evidence of that. Your husband is in his 50s though so it’s a bit different. I do not think your husband is a bad person. My point was that people might be great and all but things are still just too difficult. It sounds like an awful amount of work and struggle. I commend you for not giving up. It just sounds awfully tiring to me. It does not need to be that difficult. But I wish you the best. Hope for a positive outcome one way or the other

I see about your dad. I am sorry. It’s not easy