Agreed, Rive.

Someone on an abuse forum told me that couples therapy only jeopardizes the abused woman’s position about the abuse because the counselor takes both people’s perceptions and behavior into account. She told me that when the woman’s behaviors are considered too, that it only makes the abuser feel justified, or like his own abusive behaviors can be explained away because he was “triggered” by his wife’s behavior. This came from quotes from a book about abuse.

I am hoping this is not true in all therapy cases. And I wonder if it is true or if that’s just select therapy cases. No statistics were offered to support this claim about couples therapy.