How do you stop anxious thoughts about people behaving in ways you can't control?


My neighbors were out of town for a few months and now they are back. These people have a perfect looking yard in part because they throw all their yard waste into my yard. I have asked them to stop multiple times but it makes no difference.


In the scheme of things it doesn't matter a lot. It's the principle rather than the amount of stuff that gets to me.


The guy is out there now, doing something near the fence line. It just drives me crazy. If I shut my curtains and close my window, I can pretend he's not there, but once I see him out there, I just get so mad!

I had a maple tree die by the fence line a few years ago and think they probably poisoned it somehow. Whether they did or didn't, I don't want to be thinking that way.