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eskielover · Apr 30, 2022, 12:05 PM

Weighing in on this.....

If someone were trapped in a fire that I didn't even know, would I try to save them if it cost me my own life....probably would if I could see a way to do it at the time. That is unconditional love for someone one doesn't even know.

I picked up a young guy whose bike was broken walking along the highway road I didn't know. Was going to just drive him home but found out he actually lived several hours drive away & it was almost night time. Grilled dinner & gave him a place to sleep & clean up over the night. He went to church the next morning with me & drove him home after that. He was so thankful just to have someone care & listen to him. That is what seems to me unconditional love without knowing the person.

Along those lines, I care for my EX-H but was & am wise enough not to let that caring destroy my own future life & I will do what is necessary to protect what ever inheritance our daughter can get cause he only has debt. Sometimes we still have to put conditions on our caring when it is the wisest thing to do when we know what WILL HAPPEN when we don't. Doesn't mean I don't wish my ex the best he can do & won't talk down about him to our daughter. Just means I am smart enough to care about me rather than allowing someone to destroy my life.

I actually depend on my gut feeling to determine how I respond to situations. Had a guy walking along my road after seeing a car abandoned in the middle of the road. Didn't allow him inside my truck to take him where he wanted to go but allowed him to jump into the bed of the truck. Very careful with people around here associated with houses I know have a drug issue.

My community is pretty much a very unconditional caring one. I rescued a dog that had been in a bad accident across the road from my farm. Got vet help & fostered the dog for several months until his owner was out of the hospital. Community had a fund raiser (first year I moved here) to help me pay for the vet bill. A friend mowed my front field after I had broken my back. I have been working & exhausted & a neighbor picked up a huge branch from my tree that blew down in a storm. Another neighbor mowed much of my front field. I have mowed for them last year. We farm sit for each other when needed & just do it cause we care.

I have special friends who are my family & we do look out for each other. Other friends, we look out for each other cause we do care & the rural community I live in is just like this.

Unlike Calif where neighbors didn't even know neighbors.