Hi ArtleyWilkins, Yes, of course you are right. Forgetfulness certainly does not equal laziness so my apologies if that's how my post came across. It also as you say does not mean a lack of caring. As someone who resonates with a lot of what you experience and have ALOT of difficult with memory 99.9% of the time I am understanding. I think there is a difference between forgetting details, specifics bits of information and forgetting whole conversations that we have spoken about a few times though if it's not due to an illness.. I realize that may make it sound like she as an illness of some form which as far as I am aware is not the case. It doesn't happen all the time either perhaps 2-3 quite significant things over the past year. They were things that were spoken about numerous times at length and when I brought up again it's like she had forgotten. Even things that I had brought to her attention that she has forgotten before. So forgetting a 2nd/3rd time. This to me this seems different to someone just forgetting somehow. I have brought up her forgetting and how it's painful and then she continues to forget next time... Kind of like telling your husband how important it is for you remember your anniversary numerous times and then he goes and forgets. I certainly wouldn't call this neglience though. And yes, this is all mostly reaction based on my past experience and that is why it is so painful when it happens and why it makes me angry. Most other people would not be bothered by her forgetting these things in the slightest I know.