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Apr 30, 2022, 05:09 PM
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Member Since: Oct 2004
Location: Kentucky, USA
Posts: 25,079
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Originally Posted by downandlonely
I did more of the agape in the past too, but it led to me being used by other people. And I wasn't happy. I've never really done eros. I'm more in the philos type now.
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I do more of the agape but then they are one time in passing situations where I never see or interface with the person again. I JUST SEE THERE IS A NEED FOR HELP & I step in, do what is needed, then Ibam gone after I know there is other help or it is resolved.
The druggies up at the barn where I was keeping my horse would have taken advantage but I made myself ONLY AVAILABLE ON MY TERMS. That solved that problem because I wasn't someone they could continually depend on & I was firm in my boundaries including with my horse. They also never knew when I was going to show up even at 2am in the morning & they knew I know the sheriff if I needed backup.
When I feel someone is taking advantage, I immediately pull my availability & become busy with something else leaving me to help at my own discression. That always keeps my life under my control while allowing for helping others if needed
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