Thanks, I’ve told him a few times. The first time he got physically sick from it and couldn’t work for a few days. He said I betrayed him. Another couple times he said he would make small changes to “make me happy.” Didn’t follow through. He used guilt saying how could i think of doing that to our daughter. He thinks keeping a marriage together is key. In his view he is struggling enough and says it’s not right for me to put pressure on him.
Recently I said we have to separate and he said if it’s because of weed, then “do whatever I want.” Then he acted like nothing happened. Although I noticed he suddenly did a couple minor chores around the house.
He did tackle a big chore he has been putting off for years. It was a trigger for him.