It’s concerning that marijuana being legalized is contributing to people thinking it’s ok to be dependent on it. A person still has mood challenges and can be out of touch depending on how much they use it. It’s a form of escapism as is the case with other drugs including alcohol.

It sounds like given your past of growing up with an alcoholic parent that you learned how to be codependent and your husband feels that you should continue to be a codependent. So in effect you are passing down this dysfunction to your children.

You have a right to live your life no longer having to be the codependent.