(((geekgirl)))

Divorces are a terrible thing to experience. It seems no one's is the same as anothers, and yet, the majority inflict much pain.

Your ex knows you well and is able to punch the right buttons. My advice to you is simple. Limit the time you have to spend with him or talking to him. He is your ex and as such, needs to be in your past as much as possible.

I understand he is the father of your children and you will have to tolerate him to a degree. It is during these times it is most important for you to hold him at bay, and what I have found to work best for me is to limit the conversation. Don't argue, or attempt any conversation that isn't necassary. And regardless of what he says - don't let him rile you and see it hurt (even if it does). I think, if you would apply that, he would soon see how little he is and ease up.

Sam (who will keep his fingers crossed)