I'm seeing someone. Its very new. We met at the end of March. He lives about 90 min away and has been visiting me on the weekend. He has 2 adult daughters in their 20s. The older one lives with him.

We have been talking most nights on the phone. I'm trying not to move too fast. But we have total feelings for each other. We're pretty mushy.

But I feel really done tonight.

I've gotten upset a few times so far, mainly about him saying something in jest that hurts my feelings. He has been very receptive and apologetic.

Tonight was different. I'm nervous about meeting anyone in his life, including or maybe especially his daughters. I don't feel ready, either. I've expressed this to him. The topic has come up a lot lately bc he wants me to drive to him this weekend, and I'd end up having to meet his daughter too, since I'd be there.

I've had some contact with his daughter who lives with him. We talked briefly on the phone when I was on the phone with him once - it was awkward but okay. In that convo, she mentioned she's "not intimidating." It was uncomfortable for me. I don't want to be told that by his daughter. Its a bit embarrassing.

Tonight, he and I were on the phone. She was in the other room, and is sick, and was coughing. He made a joke to her about how even I could hear her. She said something like "tell her my cough / bark is bigger than my bite." I was really uncomfortable with this. It felt condescending / patronizing. I'm not certain if she meant any harm. Probably not. But I am super embarrassed about the fact that he talks to his adult children about me in this way, and they feel they can say stuff like that to me. Its not okay with me. I now think this is something established though, and can't control it. I'm not sure if I even want to proceed.

I told him I was embarrassed by her comment, and to please not talk to his daughters about me re this topic. But I also said I knew they were close and couldn't control what transpired.

I feel very done over this. I really do. We left the conversation with me still feeling really uneasy. He didn't seem to know how to help.

Advice and support is appreciated.

Thanks.