Hi Woven, I hope it’s okay if I bring my own experience with my adult son in his 20s in here, it may or may not be helpful, please disregard if not.

I’m not reading what she’s said (bark worse than bite) as threatening, I also feel like Posh says this could be a kind of nervous/awkward joke. Tbh my adult son makes some pretty near the knuckle jokes sometimes and he teases me a lot, it’s kind of the dynamic we have. I do sometimes have to tell him he’s gone over a line. But I notice I need to be careful how I say this because although he puts bravado on he actually is sensitive underneath, as I say it’s a dynamic we have, it’s how we relate to each other. I’m guessing your guy friend will have developed and evolved ways of relating with his daughters and that’s what you’re hearing here.

Having said all that if you feel uncomfortable with him sharing specific information about you with his daughters then it sounds a good idea to let him know, you have every right to set boundaries.

I think it is a challenge dating someone who has a family, and the shared history and dynamic that comes with that. But also as an outsider I’m reading this is a man who seems to have a good relationship with his adult daughters? Does that sound accurate?

Hugs to you, new and developing relationships aren’t always straightforward and especially when there’s established family already.