thanks for the replies.

my parents have said that I must find a job first and then they will find me a house. I am applying for jobs which would be in distance of where i'd like to live, a much cheaper area which is 40 miles away from them.

I might try this method first but if my dad is not receptive to this then I will just move away on my own accord and they will have to call me to arrange what happens to the house and arrangements i've left behind. If it means staying in a youth hostel, then it will have to be, and I will find a job and keep living.

The problem is due to my aspergers, I suffer from paranoia that blows things up, so it's hard for me to see how much they want to help me find happiness, I know a part of them does but all decisions are on their terms and they just don't understand me