I'm so sorry that you are in the situation you describe.

My experiences, which are VERY limited, have shown me that a lot depends on whether the other person is medicated and stable on the medication. A lot can depend on whether the person is in the care of a helpful therapist and has reliable coping skills.

Sadly, my experiences are so limited that I don't believe that you or anyone could depend on them for insight. I wish this wasn't the case and I hope that others here with similar experiences to yours, others here with more knowledge, experience, insight and wisdom will see your post and reach out to you.

You are in a difficult situation and the burden must be so heavy to bear. I do hope things get better for you and want to tell you that I am sorry that I cannot really be helpful and also tell you that my heart really goes out to you.