I join the ranks of people pleasers......to me, it is a defence mechanism...a way of not letting people know what _I_ want because that is them making myself vulnerable and opening up with the possibility of rejection...this is a system that works for me, becoming a chameleon and desiring what others desire....it truly works and I find I don't get hurt as much as before I implemented this system.....I say, rock on people pleasers, you know what you're doing be proud to be a people pleaser it's better than being selfish........