i think the codependent idea is of good benefit to evaluate, thanks for bring it up... im led to think about the two sides in a co-dependent relationship... in its simplest form, there is one who needs and one who provides... who would be more at fault for nurturing a supposedly unhealthy relationship? and dont we often reverse roles ourselves?

it causes me to think next of what would a healthy relationship consist of? no needs at all?

since we all have needs, there ought to be a healthy balancing act we can develop... one where needs are met, but not in an unhealthy manner?

i'd probably learn something from the book.. thanks StarPony : )