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eskielover · May 08, 2022, 08:23 PM

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Originally Posted by rlacksgh2498

100% not going to make marriage as a solution. I know for the fact that I cannot treat this illness myself as I am no doctor. Even if she is rethinking about our relationship, it will most likely do to symptoms she is having, meaning her depression and panic disorder's is showing symptoms in emotional and physical actions.

She said she will rethink but I will never give up on her that she will never recover. I want to be able to give aid for her to get treatment. I want to go to the doctors with her, if she can't do it alone, even, if she can't make an appointment I'll do it for her. I want to be part of her life and witness that she is getting the actual legitimate treatment this time. From meds, to CBT and other things, like cutting off caffeine and alcohol.

After all of that and she becomes better, then we can slowly talk about our futures again.

Just a thought from my own personal experience (not saying it applies to yours but may be worth observing or bring aware of)

If she is rethinking the relationship....don't pressure her that you will be there to give her aid. If she is rethinking the relationship that may be the last thing she wants or needs.

I was married & after 20 years of being around him & other things that hit in my life, I ended up with major depression & anxiety. 13 years at the end of our marriage I struggled with this & I didn't realize at the time but the Sui attempts were really my desire to escape (not a physically abusive marriage) It wasn't till after I left that I had time to really analyze how I felt & realized that it was the relationship that was feeding the depression & anxiety. I was then living 2100 miles away so no chance of him being a part of my life at that point, but when someone tells you they want to rethink the relationship....RESPECT their need cause a relationship isn't just about what YOU want. Usually when someone says that it is already because they have issues with the relationship & are trying to be as kind as possible in ending it & maybe she needs to know if the relationship is adding to her depression & anxiety. Only way she will know for sure is by taking time totally away. In my case, my depression & anxiety lifted as soon as I moved away to my farm. That was my sure sign as to how the marriage relationship had actually been negatively effecting me. Give her space. If she rethinking & realizes the relationship was not the problem than it will turn out how you want it to