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Originally Posted by SlumberKitty
So, I set up the Zoom appointment for my therapy appointment tonight at six because my therapist does not know how to do it. And I sent her my copay via Zelle. And I text messaged her to let her know these things were done.
T responded: Thank you. You are very thoughtful, reliable, helpful, responsible, considerate. I wish I could clone you so all my clients would have these gifts.
Um. I know that is supposed to be a compliment. So why does it make me feel bad?
Hmm. Maybe the depression I think I am in is putting a negative view on everything or making me feel bad for her other clients that aren't getting such praise. Or something. Ugh. Sometimes I hate interacting with T's because no matter what I do or say or what they do or say, I just end up feeling miserable and bad.
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If we're feeling bad about ourselves, it can be very difficult to accept compliments. Like maybe someone would tell me I'm a good friend, and I think, "No, I'm not," thinking of, say, a time I forgot to check in with them about something or how I probably talk about my own stuff too much (doesn't help that an ex-friend told me that). Or my employer might tell me I'm doing good at my job, and I think of the couple things that I missed/got wrong rather than the things I consistently get right.
Or with therapy, Dr. T has said positive things about me as a client, how I'm very engaged in the work, am always on time for session, am respectful of his boundaries, etc. But then, say, yesterday, when I walked right back to his office after I left to seek reassurance, I had the thought of "I must be his most annoying client ever."
I think this would actually be a good thing to mention to your T, particularly as it could be a symptom of depression.