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May 11, 2022, 12:49 PM
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Desert Kitty hates titles
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Member Since: Jul 2008
Location: TARDIS
Posts: 12,994
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Originally Posted by AzulOscuro
It’s all about consumerism. That’s all.
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SO true.  Even the founder was appalled at how commercialized it got and tried to abolish it. I wish they would. Let people celebrate or not...on any day they want. I read a few articles online that day about how hurtful it is for many people. It includes women who lost children, are struggling with adoption or fertility issues, regret being a mom, etc. Also women who are surrogate mothers, raising kids that are not their own, like stepmothers.
The article said we must be kinder in our "happy" greetings and be aware not all relationships are a Hallmark card. Those images are great but not the norm. It's fake and makes me people think this is how motherhood should be.
The forced or artificial cheerfulness is triggering to me. Father's Day doesn't have the same hype (or sales...) but it's still too much.
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Originally Posted by Mendingmysoul
Mother's day is very triggering for me.When I was a kid I used to believe all mothers behaved like my mom .Spiteful,hateful,raging,physically,mentally,verbally cruel and abusive.I used to go to my friend's place after school to avoid my mom's hostility.I thought it was weird that my friend's mom used to smile at her and asked her if she was hungry.I thought mothers were supposed to beat, yell and be mean .I was that naive, Hope all the abuse survivors are healing and doing better.
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I thought all mothers were critical and didn't say "I love you" or hug their children. Guess I'm supposed to assume she loved me since she was expected to. I often wonder if she WANTED to be a mother or did it because, at that time, it was just expected of women of that generation.
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