We’re trying to convince her to rent a condo or apartment in a 55+ Community. All she needs is two bedrooms since she does like having my son over. She wants a better relationship with my niece too but as I said, it’s impossible right now. We want her in as small a space as possible because it will be easier for us (probably just me, let’s be real) to help her clean up and get rid of stuff should she begin to hoard it out again. Which I believe she will do as she will not go to therapy to address anything at all.

I feel like we need to get her settled somewhere first and get her out, and then we can clean the house out without her around. Most of her stuff is junk but I know she will assign value to all of it. I mean at this point even the furniture is trash. Maybe my son’s old bed is ok. That’s about it.

I feel you on the panic thing about stuff though. If things are looking cluttered around here I get upset and start tossing things. Then later I realize that I actually needed it but I didn’t want to lay eyes on it anymore. Then I have to buy a new item.