As in, if I were his wife? I don't really like the term "obey." More that I'd want him to take my feelings and concerns into account. But I'd also like to think I'd respect his job and what he'd feel he wants/needs to do to best serve his clients. That it would ultimately be his decision.

I certainly wouldn't want him blaming me if his client asked about returning to virtual. Like, "My wife said I have to stop seeing clients in person."

I admittedly have told my H that I'd prefer he not referee youth games for the (indoor, no masks required) sport that he does some as a hobby (he makes maybe $40 to $50/game, so it's not his regular job) and he ultimately agreed with me that it wasn't a good idea (then he got injured, so it became a moot point). Though at the time, our D wasn't vaccinated yet, so that was my biggest concern.

And for several indoor concerts I had planned to attend in the last few months, I asked him if he'd prefer I not attend or if he'd want me to isolate/mask up as best I could in the house for the few days after and test a few times. He said it was up to me, and I ultimately decided to go to one (where masks/vaccines were required) and skip the other two (one of which is tonight).