I personally feel relationships evolve, all of them, but for many people marriage is their most important relationship.

I’m not going to recommend movies or literature because most of those do not reflect real life, they use a lot of drama. Real relationships may have moments of drama but they usually have long stretches of every day life, yes maybe monotonous, or boring sometimes. I would encourage you to be curious about your partner, don’t assume you know everything about him, be interested in his thoughts, and who he is, what draws you to him? Ask him questions, encourage him to ask you questions.

As you go through life together take opportunities to connect - there are many if you look for them. Maybe trying new activities together, or visiting places, perhaps watching a movie then having a good discussion afterwards about what you really thought of it.

I’ve been with my husband almost 30 years and I can honestly say although we’ve had rough patches at times as we went through life together this more mature phase of our relationship is the best so far, it’s not the wild passion of the early years but it’s a deeper and calmer connection.