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Originally Posted by comrademoomoo
Obviously, I don't know any information about how things were in your relationship at that time but, as a basic principle, the idea that one partner does not want sex whilst things are disrupted or disconnected in some way is entirely understandable. It seems appropriate to me that the therapist would have normalised your partner's feeling around that. What was it about that exchange that you found particularly disturbing?
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For sure. But it seems pretty basic to say, “if I’m hearing you it sounds like partner A is saying that they don’t want sex while feeling disconnected and partner B is saying that they miss the sexual connection y’all had as a couple. That sounds difficult FOR BOTH OF YOU..”
As I understood it, the issue wasn’t that OM could not understand why on earth SO felt as she did but rather was shamed for not experiencing things in that exact way. Whatever feeling you’re having is okay and can be normalized.