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Originally Posted by divine1966
So he goes to work drugged up, acts out and then gets fired. You are still saying drug abuse is not a problem on the job. It’s old wife’s take that pot only mellows people down. It causes psychosis. If someone says they went to work drunk and caused problems and got fired, would you still argue that alcohol isn’t a problem and that’s not why they misbehave on the job and then get fired?.
I understand you don’t want to leave and I get it you want to understand why he does this or that and often times it’s important to know all this. But no amount of rationalizing and finding excuses for him will change the reality of what’s happening
Separating finances is not hard. Just create a bank account deposit work pay check there and only cover urgent bills like buying food and paying things for the house. If he doesn’t work, isn’t stay at home parent and is not on disability if he chooses to act out at work, he shouldn’t have to be able to buy drugs.
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He worked at that place, high, for a year. He worked sober at the job he just got fired from. He got fired for the same reason at each. I think drug use on a job is a problem. I couldn’t do my job high for five minutes. I’m not trying to argue that drug use isn’t an issue. He hasn’t been fired for being high is all. Basically he’ll say something that there is no coming back from. His anger I guess.
I go back and forth between wanting him to go and hoping things will improve. I just keep bringing it up to him again and again (that I can’t allow poor parenting, addiction, neglect). Each time feeling more real. Each time worrying less about how he receives the message, and believing more in my message.
I’m sure he thinks his last pay check earns him some weed. I told him I don’t want him buying weed now. If he makes any money I’m sure he’ll buy weed. He’ll always find a way to get weed. He’ll trade things for it. Invite a smoker over. I guess to separate finances I would get him off my bank account and have him pay me for expenses.