Yeah PTSD isn’t a joke. My husband has been diagnosed with PTSD as well. He has it under control but it’s not something that would just go away. The thing is that substance abuse makes it worse, not better. Your husband needs to seek proper help. Not drugging.
I’d say if it’s severe enough he might need to go on disability. If he wants to stay employed though, he needs to figure out ways to behave on the job.
Reality is that you can’t make him do any of it. He has to want to make changes. It can’t come from you
And let’s face it as important as he is for you, and as much as you want to help him, emotional and physical health and safety of your minor children should be a priority. What happens now effects them forever. We are responsible for life we create for our children