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Old May 15, 2022, 04:31 PM
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Ugh I went to my grandma’s and she gave me a whole bunch of **** to do for my mom. It’s so frustrating, I can’t delegate to my brother because he won’t do it. I have to take her car through inspection (it’s 4 years overdue), take her taxes to be done (hasn’t filed in 3 years), and renew her registration (due in March). She can’t do any of that herself because she’s a child in a grown woman’s body. I’m not mad anymore. I’m just frustrated that *I* have to do it all.

I talked to my brother and SIL and now I’m also tasked with getting my mom to commit to selling her house. I obviously am not going to be doing everything alone but I have to put in the emotional work to get her totally on board. My SIL says it’s not worth it if she’s not 100% committed and she’s right but I can’t get her to commit 100% by myself. My SIL said my mom needs to be in therapy before we start, but that’s just not going to happen. I’d have to do everything on that too. I’d literally have to find her a therapist and even make an appointment and she probably wouldn’t show up anyway. I’m not doing that.

But the fact is my SIL doesn’t have much empathy for her, and my brother is also too emotional, so again, I’m the only option.

I don’t know what to do. She NEEDS to get out. But if she won’t go to therapy…it’s a whole circle.

Sigh.
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