Robjam

Can relate to several items on your list. For a small family, there are so many separate agendas.

It's only lately that I've decided I'm not going to be the "family football". Whether it's lies, unacceptable comments or even physically lashing out (my sister-in-law under the influence of alcohol).

Whilst you are mindful of supporting your children, it's good that you don't let your illness rule your life.

Even in a relationship it's important to retain your own decency and integrity. It may take time to shake off the chains and involve some tough decisions. Ultimately, you will be stronger and more in tune with your own wellbeing.