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eskielover · May 16, 2022 at 05:22 PM

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Originally Posted by cbeans

I think for some or maybe even many people, it's not active denial; it's poor insight into one's mental health. Perhaps it looks the same one the outside -- the person does not seek or participate in treatment or will state that they don't have a problem -- but lack of insight is not a decision. It's truly not understanding something is wrong. I learned this from reading the book "I'm Not Sick. I Don't Need Help" by Xavier Amador

This is so true. I left my H because things got mentally & financially abusive. I left like 2100 miles away & went to therapy to help me process all I had lived with. One T said I can't diagnose but this may be what is causing your H (wasn't divorced yet) to behave the way he is behaving. Sent an email suggesting that he might get some help with his behavior issues if he looked into getting a more detailed diagnosis. He got angry but later said that he actually realized what I said might be a real possibility as I sent examples of him vs the symptoms of a diagnosis. Told him if not the diagnosis at least he would know. He never bothered but at least the seed was planted as a possibility & not in total denial (just close cause never has gotten the help he needed & pretty much has destroyed his life. Just glad I didn't hang around to be part of that destruction