(((((crw)))))
yes, this is an abusive relationship. Your situation sounds similar to the one I used to be in- I used words and he used violence. My ex-husband never 'hit' me; he seemed to be very restrained like that. Instead I was kicked, pushed and shoved, thrown into walls, dragged round the house by my hair...and then there was the verbal abuse on top of that. Yet despite all of this I blamed myself because I made him angry with my words, and because I knew how to wind him up.

We went to relationship counselling together, as in a realtionship it really does 'take 2 to tango', and while it didn't 'save' the marriage it gave me a lot of valuable tools to use in all relationships; a lot of great communication tools.

Maybe you could start by talking with your t; he/she will be able to help guide you with what you could do whether it be relationship counselling; individual therapy or whatever...

Good luck xxx