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Originally Posted by MobiusPsyche
LT, I don't think meeting for group consultation once every two months (why even bother?!) or a lack of a supervisor to turn to are at the core of the problem.
For me, I would have difficulty working with your T because, at his core, he does not seem to be a person given to self-reflection. He only seems to own his part in things when you force him to in some way... whether by you confronting him or by the size of your emotional response. I'm perhaps too given to reflection, but I'm not sure I could work with a T who needs to be prompted to do it.
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Oh, I completely agree with you. And I know he did talk to the consultation group about the whole thing with the stone years ago--where he found my getting comfort from holding a transitional object *that he had given me* to be somewhat creepy or weird if it represented him rather than the therapy space. And he basically said they agreed that he didn't need to explain his reaction to me and seemed to understand why he felt that way? So maybe they're all therapists who are quite like him!
If you couldn't guess, I'm also someone who is probably too given to reflection. And it definitely bothers me that Dr. T doesn't do more of that. If I say/do something that upsets someone, I'm going to spend time thinking about what happened there, trying to understand, and also take steps to make it right. Whereas he seems to think "Well, these are my feelings, so...." And/or assume the other person is just overreacting. There's also the consideration that something that may not seem like a big deal to him (like being told something he did irritated someone) could be a big deal to someone else due to triggers, sensitive areas, etc. As a therapist, you'd think he'd be extra sensitive to that!