Yes, I should focus on other things, but I cannot help it. It's engrained in me about how I look. My mother was always weight conscious as a ballet dancer and was always dieting while growing up. My sister is very very thin and so is my mother now. My mother has commented on my weight gain and has tried to help me to diet. I just don't feel as good as I used to feel, or half as sexy. I am very weight conscious and body conscious, so it's hard for me to just accept this weight gain and look at other qualities within myself.