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Originally Posted by stopdog
I think that one's sensitivities are one's own to figure out. I don't think expecting someone else to bother about them is going to work all that well. So, to me, the deal is not how to get the therapist to make sure they never said anything that might not be warm and fuzzy (the ones I hired never were warm and fuzzy so that would not be for me either) but rather the point would be figuring out how not to be reactive to others if it was interactions with others that were upsetting.
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I agree with this concept. LT, I know you get triggered when people do not respond in the way you want or exoect them too. I'm sure Dr. T knows how you want him to respond by now but that may not be an honest answer for him. If he were to only treat you with kid gloves all of the time he would only be hurting you in the end. Not everyone in life is going to respond the way you want; using the words and options you qoute in your posts. It is on both of you to help you learn to handle responses that are less than ideal. It seems like he may be doing this with you regarding D but havecyou asked him to help you with this in everyday life. If so that is great. If not, it may be something to bring up.
I am not judging your responses but let's face it. Life can suck and not everyone is going to act the way we want them to. We can't change others, we can only change how we respond. I have lived a life full of trauma and have triggers about everything. My T says I was dealt a bad hand and it sucks, it will take a lot of hard work but I am the only one that can do it. Unfortunately he can only provide guidance , but he nor anyone else can do it for me.