For the past almost year, I have been in a relationship with what I believe a sociopath. I can't diagnose him, but he fits most of the characteristics. He recently got out of jail for probably the 6th time and he was pressuring me to find a place to live and have him live with me. He just recently got a job because I pushed him to do so and a good friend of mine did a favor for me and hired him. Prior to this job, he had no substanial work history.

He is 37 years old, legally married (filed for divorce recently again because I pushed it and made sure he did it), has 2 kids that he has not seen in over a year (wife's fault according to him...I don't buy that). He also dropped out of high school and did not get his GED. I have 2 master's degrees and I am a professional woman. I tried to look past our differences and what everyone told me about how he was no good and using me, but I was stupid and put that aside because I love him. After he got out of jail, I believe he relapsed on drugs. He lies to me constantly about talking to other women and thinks I am jealous because I told him I did not feel comfortable with some of the people he was talking to or things he was doing. He has a very sketchy past when it comes to being unfaithful. I tried to look past his sketchy and criminal past and help him change and do better.

For 6 months of our relationship, he was in jail. I supported him and talked to him everyday trying to keep him positive. My entire family cannot stand him and said he has been using me from day 1. I have went into substantial debt because of him. He makes me feel like all of this is my fault. He lashes out on me all the time if I catch him in a lie. He turns all of what he has done on me. I may be somewhat jealous and insecure, but I do have good reasons to be. I recently found out I am pregnant and told him we could work through this and start over and fresh. Then when I went to talk to him about it, I saw some things that suggested he had another female over previously. When I brought it up and asked him about it (did not accuse), he got all loud and yelling at me. He grabbed my purse and shaked me. I told him to not contact me again. After that, he continued to message me. I tried to ignore him but gave in and said we can work this out because of the baby, he then said he does not want to because I am "crazy and a whacko." He then said he would give me money for abortion. I am so upset and I don't know what to do. I don't want to raise the child alone and I don't know if he would even be a fit father with his past and his relationship (lack of) with his current kids. He continues to yell and stalk his wife because she will not let him see the kids alone because they don't feel comfortable with that since they have not seen him in over a year. I am sorry this post is so long...I just really need someone to talk to and offer me some advice. I am 36 years old and have no previous children. Thank you for reading.